When a friend of mine went on the all-important first date last weekend, I was surprised to find such a cool and confident girl reduced to the trivial worries that plague the minds of many.
Should she kiss him? What to talk about? And the most stressful of all… what to wear??
It was at this point that I calmly explained that the rules of shopping could be applied to dating. When it comes to shopping my frugality makes me a firm believer in the ‘sleep on it’ rule. If you see something you like and you are not 100% sure, sleep on it and the next day you will know. I also explained that with shopping we all have our moments of weakness, and buy something in the confidence that we can return it, but to remember that this is not the case with dating. If one goes too far too quickly, it may be impossible to ‘return’, and to be quite frank… it ruins the magic.
That night while she was busy enjoying herself over dinner, I started to think about a recent situation of my own. Having possibly gone too far a little too quickly with a certain CPF, I pondered over whether or not we had reached the point of ‘no return’. If things with this guy didn’t work out would I regret my lacking ability to judge him and the situation?
Later, meeting up with my grinning friend and her date, I was anxious to get into all the gory details of her evening so far. I gathered they had much to talk about, so that was not a problem (then again this girl is not one to lack words). Earlier that day another friend and I had been able to help her pick out what to wear. Although the date’s instructions ‘elegant, but not over the top’ had created a small challenge, we eventually picked out a black and purple bodycon dress and black Kurt Geiger boots (yum), eliminating another vital issue. The only thing left to worry about that evening was whether or not to kiss.
The next day over a little drink, and a large interrogation I managed to find out that they hadn’t kissed. Whether or not this was because of my explanation of the ‘sleep on it’ rule I am still unsure. All I know is that things between my friend and her man are going well, and I expect many more dates in the future.
But we shall deal with that as it comes.
